Damn, He Got A Point

Viral media ladies and gentlemen, viral media is here to stay! You would think with that we should all govern ourselves accordingly. Now with the advances of the internet and mobile technology information is sent out faster than the HOV lane during rush hour. Now for the last few years blogs have been flooded with "leaked" x rated photographs of celebrities. There's no question that these type of things are happening more often than ever more recently; I finally have something to say about it. Now I will be the FIRST to tell you that I in no way mind these pictures...in fact I love them; I said it. Seeing the art and beauty that is Amber Rose, Kelly Rowland, and Rihanna etc. is quite fine with me. There is however a problem when you're constantly being caught in compromising positions or if your private stashes are constantly being "leaked." Simply being out and about today I thought of this topic and then I thought that this whole issue is deeper ...

I just wanted to let anyone who follows me know that I have been a little quiet lately in preparation for writing for a new online magazine I will be contributing to. I will still do entries in my blog, no doubt, just lately I have been organizing for my new column. Lately I did a little photo shoot for the column and also for a cover for my book "Staying Power ." My column will carry the name "Damn, He Got A Point" as it did while I was in college. Expect a different style of writing but still me, just trying out different approaches for the same messages. I think it's imperative to evolve and appeal to different masses. The name of the magazine is called Viral Status magazine and the site launches on August 30th, 2011. I ask for you all to still check my blog but in addition check out more work with Viral Status. It's a new venture for me run by young blacks trying to make more of a name for themselves. It's a solid magazine and I'm simply glad ...

I had a world of time to play with my own thoughts today. After a staggering 3 hours in a dental office accompanying my grandfather for some extraction I had some time to think. Music and playing on your phone get a little old after all that time so I decided to just stop everything and wait patiently for him to be seen. So the sounds of Nostrand Avenue became the soundtrack to my thoughts, and as usual I began thinking of past situations with myself and past situations with friends. I always aim to make distinctions that I believe go unnoticed. Something I surprised myself thinking of was the idea of settling. The term settling (as in settling for someone) is pretty vague when you think about it. I say that because I believe you can settle in about 4 ways. 4 ways of settling: Lifestyle- Settling in terms of lifestyle I would define as settling for someone who makes life a lot easier for you financially. This kind of settling can also include someone who doesn't share a ...

You have to excuse what may seem like horrible grammar in my title. This was my cheap attempt at being extra conversational. If you ask me... I think i succeeded. Pretty harsh words up top if you ask me and if you're a betting man (or woman) you could bet you're about to find out what I mean by "Growth Don't Care." Growth don't care is a term I thought of yesterday. I spent the day just relaxing due to the inclement weather. I simply looked up jobs and cars and thought about writing material. I came to a conclusion that no matter what we mature. Even if a person's action doesn't mature, our body's mature and what have you. My point is you can't stop maturation. I am a strong advocate for learning things in life more (not necessarily more school). You have to be open to new thoughts and circumstances. Growth will take place in ourselves and our loved ones. Depending ...

"Love is what u make of it and with whom u make it." Words of a good friend of mine. I'm not too sure if these are his words or some other person but profound nonetheless. Words so profound to me that as soon as i read the quote it sparked me to write this here blog right now. Sometimes you read things and you connect from the gate. I relate to it, and maybe it's because it's saying something I haven't heard before. This quote makes me question my past, and for other singles it may cause you to do the same. For the married or involved people it may help you appreciate your current situation and that's all good too. What did reading this quote do to me? It made me feel quite fine that I have loved. I never really regretted whom I loved and what led to all that, but I guess we never can be mad at some reiteration. But what I continue to think about is whom you love for the future. A long time ago I wrote a post called "Patterns" and I s...

Where can I begin today? I usually try to think of a clever way to begin each post which has proven to be fun for me the previous 140 times but today I'm at a loss. Today I want to talk about expectations. What about expectations? What affects what we expect out of ones we love, what compromises our expectations? Do we set expectations too high? What demands high expectations from someone? Yea I just asked a whole bunch of questions in a row, there might even be a grammatical word for that. Nevertheless I want your rebuttal because this is a thought pressing in my head. I think there's a level of respect you have to have for someone before you even begin to set an expectation for them. The level of that respect correlates with how much you would expect out of them. What exactly are we expecting out of our loved ones in the very least? I would say respect for their loved ones and respect for themselves as well as sound decision making. Your decision making mirrors your self...

I'm honestly coming off one of the most fun weekends I've had in a long time. For the first time in a good while myself and now my former classmates hung out and just kicked it for most of the day. When my circle gets together I guess it's your typical guy conversations (which I'll never be tired of btw). Without question you end of talking about women. I love talking about women, I think women are great; there's nothing like them. They are sometimes the only thing difficult to deal with that you seemingly will never quit. As we reminisced about different women and college years, a friend of mine made probably one of the greatest points I'd heard in a long time. He simply said that he believed men can get 95% of women under a situational or circumstantial basis. What he meant was that many times you have to be at the right place at the right time and you can hypothetically have damn near any woman you wanted. For example, there may be a time in which a ...

This post carries a vague title being that the scenario I present you probably wouldn't expect. As usual I'm going to take a different perspective on this one, because it simply baffled me when I was told about this. I have a female friend who told me about a situation she was having with her boyfriend before i went on my trip. In a nutshell she's been with dude for a month and her man has never made any real advances towards her sexually. Now she has been the aggressor and her man continues to simply say he's not ready and what not. Now of course this causes her to think it's her, and something is wrong with her. I reassured her no man is going to call you his own if they don't like you. At the same token I couldn't grasp this guy being with someone but not wanting to have sex with them yet. I asked myself is this dude just some endangered species of man that likes to take his time and not have sex with someone soon? It's not a bad thing, but in my min...

A lot of what I write could be attributed to what some might call "youthful exuberance." There's times I will open up about myself about things I think are funny, and without question I think other people would relate to me with as well. Fresh off my unique vacation of Jamaica I'm sitting in my room tweaking what I call my "Good Night" playlist. My good night playlist is basically my playlist of R&B music I put together when I decide I'm kicking it with a woman. In deleting some stuff and adding some stuff I realized something.... I discriminate. What do I mean by discriminate? Well I have a way of being very meticulous about everything I do with someone, what I do with them, and how I do it. Maybe the Psychologist in me is always thinking a step ahead in which I believe one behavior may lead to misconceptions down the line. I say that to say this... I don't play music for every woman I've been with. For some sure I have, but I've realize...