Limbo Limbo Limbo!!

Where can I begin today? I usually try to think of a clever way to begin each post which has proven to be fun for me the previous 140 times but today I'm at a loss. Today I want to talk about expectations. What about expectations? What affects what we expect out of ones we love, what compromises our expectations? Do we set expectations too high? What demands high expectations from someone? Yea I just asked a whole bunch of questions in a row, there might even be a grammatical word for that. Nevertheless I want your rebuttal because this is a thought pressing in my head.

I think there's a level of respect you have to have for someone before you even begin to set an expectation for them. The level of that respect correlates with how much you would expect out of them. What exactly are we expecting out of our loved ones in the very least? I would say respect for their loved ones and respect for themselves as well as sound decision making. Your decision making mirrors your self esteem. At a certain point all decisions you make will be to your good or detriment but it will all reflect what you figure is best for you.

Deception can compromise what you expect out of someone, or someone showing that they don't care enough about themselves. It's a rough thing when you might care about someone more than they may care about themselves. it's at that point where you begin to question whether or not you care too much. You say to yourself " Am I supposed to care this much?" The fact that you would even ask yourself that means your heart is in the right place. Can we expect too much out of people? I definitely believe so, and what's even harder is trying to expect less.

I have this theory in my mind of expectations resembling a limbo pole. Expectations are this limbo game, but you only begin to play when someone causes you to expect less from them. So the game begins and time after time your expectations lower and lower and lower. All the while you always show hope that we wouldn't have to lower the bar anymore, maybe the game will end and you'll start from the top. This sometimes doesn't happen and by some grace of God people may find a way under your limbo pole even when it's at it's lowest point. That's an amazing thought. Is there a point where you give up on someone? I'm not sure; maybe you just wash your hands and let them find their way. Sometimes that's the only answer because these horses won't drink from a well unless they're dehydrated.

It's an uncomfortable thought when you think of putting so much well wishes into anyone and then feeling as if you're intelligence is constantly being insulted. Think about buying a brand new car and it breaks down half way home or having your honor role child get expelled.... that's that's right the shit just don't add up! Nevertheless here's my advice, if you find yourself always expecting great movements from someone and they don't happen don't give up on them. But you can't also expect anything better from them each time they seem to dig a deeper hole. They say you're only as good as your last hit and that's how you're going to have to play it. Expect from people as much as they give you to expect from them, you'll be way happier that way.