Damn, He Got A Point

Summer's seem to become a pretty special time for me every year now. I tend to think to myself a lot more. Summertime gives me the opportunity to fully evaluate myself for the new school year get refocused and in some cases stop the bullshit. Every summer since I've been in college has had it's own story. My summer after my freshman year was about me getting over someone I was unusually CRAZY for. I did a lot of thinking and had numerous conversations with people to figure out what exactly was wrong with me.... or her for that matter. But as that summer went along and I went on a cruise I realized being around people who really had your best interest at heart was a good start to starting fresh. By last summer I feel I was a lot better off emotionally and my focus was really to outdo my previous year's performance, I actually did pretty good my sophomore year. I landed a little job working with kids at this camp in Manhattan, that job took a world out of me. But the kids...

So I am currently on this movie day binge I guess. I just finished watching sex and the city and now I'm on to this movie called "Purple Violets." And the plot is so unique and makes me wonder if situations like this really happen. So these two ex-couples meet up after years of not seeing each other. Now both ex-couples give it a shot once again. And in both instances they are successful one more immediate than the other. But it just got me to thinking maybe wasting time feeling bad about something is exactly that...wasting time. I guess it's true when they say something that's meant to be will come around again...I thought it was interesting.

Today I got back from Canada and my family's 13th Bi- annual reunion. This was my 3rd consecutive one which is a new record for me,lol. I feel so good to have been apart of this one. This reunion marked to me a new phase in my life. The premise of us going to Canada was really a sentimental thing. Back in 1989 the first official reunion was i Canada, and since then it has not been in Canada. So it was great that I was at the first one as a new born, and now 20 years later a grown man, that's my personal thing. But the family's real reason for going back to Canada was to really visit that side of the family's oldest living member who could no longer attend the other reunions in other places due to health reasons. This man i was sure didn't remember me... but he actually did. It kinda suprised me but also made me feel good. He had this great sense of humor even in his state, and I felt good to be one of the people to bring him some happiness in wake of all his othe...

On Wednesday I head to another family reunion, my third in a row, which is now my longest streak,lol. Although it has been a big sort of headache putting together, the time has come to become a little excited about it. Anyone that knows me knows I LOVE my family. I've been fortunate to be surrounded by people that really care for me and are really individuals in their own rights. But I write tonight to discuss something else. More times than not people who don't have such great relationships with their families tend to be a bit bitter when they see you enjoying that type of relationship. It's not their fault and you should be understanding if they do come off bitter. But don't ever allow these people to make you feel like you're spoiled to have a good family, or that its whack. Appreciate your family, and for those people who don't have supportive ones, how about you try your best to support them and give them the support they need to feel that feeling. Don...

Eddie Murphy happens to be probably my favorite comedian ever, even though he's only had 2 specials. These specials were in the mid 80s but damn they are still forever relevant today. In "RAW" Eddie schools men and warns them about how women use "pussy traps". He defines pussy traps as when a women uses not giving you any to keep you around. I thought it would be cool to bring my thoughts to that philosophy. I don't think it's a great idea when a woman uses her "pussy" as bait. what I mean is a lot of women I've spoken to over the years say certain things that give that vibe. Women would say "I only have sex with my boyfriend", or they'd say "well maybe if we went out it would be different." To the ladies I guess they're doing something they grew up being taught. Maybe going out with someone you have sex with makes them have more respect for you..I highly disagree. But to the ladies, this can end up backfiring ...

I'm at the Maxwell concert yesterday and before it began my friends and i get into this discussion of how people are quick to call their significant others wifey and hubby. I guess it's cute...but I think it's safe to assume that men find the terms cool, and maybe women really put their feelings more into it..maybe. I think the term is cool to bring a certain feel to the relationship, to show that yea yall got a bond maybe stronger than just a normal boyfriend girlfriend couple might have. But more recently i think the term is being used too loosely. In my mind at least you gotta really have a real effect on me for me to be like yea I'm chillin with the wife. It's real convenient but i think it paints a false picture for some ladies, ladies who are dying to hear words that give them reassurance that their man is serious about what they got. Well maybe that's where the problem lies, no word like wifey should define that, what should define how a man really feels...

I was having a real good convo with one of my friends yesterday. We always have good convos, and of course the subject of women is a focal. We were speaking of money and I was telling him how upset i was that I had no dough lol cause the job market aint treating me right. So he says he been there n what not. And I told him it's time like this I think of money I've spent before. I told him about all the shopping I did my freshman year for no reason really and he was like yea man you gotta cut back. I told him i had, which I have, but then I said "yea man plus i ws really digging someone at the time and I always wanted to do things to make her happy." So my friend goes "so you had her tricking off you?" "You bugging kahlil." lol, he said it in such a way that out of all the people I been with not one of them deserved to be treated special. It really took me back because after at that time 4 years of dealing with all types of girls one finally stood o...