Damn, He Got A Point

This post strays from my usual "M.O." but I felt I should say a little something. This week a former professor of mine, Dr. Reiter passed away., There's not many professors that have an instant profound impact on you. But this man from my first class with him I knew he was different. Dr. Reiter was an extemely humble man who treated everyone with great humility. I was extremely saddened by his loss, mainly because I wanted him around more to help strenghthen my own psychological foundation as it pertains to my major. He's taught me much in the area of Abnormal Psychology. But the biggest lesson he taught me was one he didn't teach. Dr. Reiter was not well and there were many days he didn't make it to class. But what a joy it was to see him when he did. The strength and courage he showed dealing with whatever condition he had really made me appreciate him that much more. There's comfort for me in knowing that I never took him for granted. But I'd be l...

I guess it's only fitting in this final installment of my little Venus v.s Mars series to talk about one of the most common double standards in life! What makes a "Pop" a "Pop". Why aren't more men labeled as such? Will perception change with time? What's the basis of the term to begin with? This is a never ending debate. It's something ,mainly women are concerned with. Everyone has their own opinions and has their own set of morals they want to live by. With that said everyone has their own philosophy no matter how far fetched, of what a "Pop" is. Basically you coin the term "Pop" to someone who is overly promiscuous, or someone who is overly promiscuous in a very short time frame. I think I have narrowed it down to a few simple points as to what makes a "Pop" a "Pop." Feel free to add on. Responsibility- Most Pops aren't responsible people in terms of who and how they deal. Many may not protect themselves...

It's more than natural for us to think generally. We judge off of experiences. If you as a woman have pretty much bad experiences with men, you will naturally at least feel like we're all the same. I think that's highly warranted. But I do hope you are realistic and know that's impossible. My aim I guess is to bring some light to why some men happen to do the wrong things to you. Why some men cheat and why some are just assholes. It's said many times that we as humans are creatures of habit. We see things we pick up things, we emulate many things. We all influence each other, all influences aren't good. As a young boy I would always get asked "where your girlfriend?" If the answer was I don't have one, then the next question was "why not?" I know for a fact as women you having boyfriends at young ages isn't encouraged by your families. If my answer was I had a girlfriend, then the question would be "why only one?" Please be...

This is kind of the premise of my blog itself I guess. We as men and women are totally different in terms how our minds work. Hence the title, at the end of the day I think our priorities are different. Women will always see things in a way where a lot of times a guy would be like "so what." Women love elaboration and emphatically getting points across. Women seem to over think things and anticipate the worst. There may be other things involved but I'm not woman enough to tell you. But as a man I know that we're pretty simple people. NOT stupid or slow. Just simple people. We don't usually read into things as much as a woman does. And what's more important to a woman just isn't as important to a man. It's purely natural as to why this is. What is not natural is maybe the asshole guy you run into. That's a nurturing issue I may divulge at another time. I think as men it wouldn't hurt to try and understand women more where they're coming fr...

I think a lot of women feel men they deal with lack passion and intimacy. I happen to feel those elements are priceless and should be included in any type of intimate act. There's different things that add to this. Eye Contact- Might seem small but adds something to whatever you're doing. Enhances your connection with one another. Music- I think music adds to even a simple massage. The right kind of music is an aphrodisiac in and of itself. Dialogue- Y'all should be talking to each other, maybe not OD conversations lol but def clever little things. I think the problem is society puts so much less emphasis on passion and intimacy. But I think it's absolutely imperative for a real good love/sex life. Passion is like the heart, the sex is like the blood. Without something pumping that blood, it's damn near useless. Our "love" reality shows on television don't put any emphasis on visceral emotion or feelings. This generation coming up has to learn somewhe...

My aunt has a saying she told me when I was 11 that always stuck with me. She said too much of one thing was good for nothing. It rings true in so many facets of life. For instance too much salt you get high blood pressure. Too much sugar on your teeth you get cavities, so on and so forth. Well as it pertains to females and males maybe there's a lesson there to be learned. Why are we always compelled to want some things that may not be good for us? People smoke cigarettes knowing it has the potential to kill them. A lot of women continue to get with the same men one after the other. Something's got to give. You've had enough of that "type" it's time to find a new type, a type that fits you more. Oh Geez you might have to step out your comfort zone, or maybe even make a couple exceptions. But it might just be worth your happiness. Nothing is healthy for you when it's overdone, with food you'll get fat or sick, and in relationships you'll end up wit...

We're getting older. We all become more aware of the importance of "swag." I have one problem. I think tooo many people think they have swag. now don't get me wrong, there's different kinds of swags,whatever works for someone. But I think swag is a little more than your style in terms of clothes. Your swag is the whole package you present to society. Speech- You should have at least an okay vocabulary. You should be able to speak clearly. And be able to look people in the eye when you speak, stuff like that. Hygiene- I think hygiene is a big deal, taking care of yourself adds to what people see and makes people want to be around you. Keeping your hands and hair groomed the whole 9 is imperative. They say the emptiest vessels make the most noise. Know that it ain't so much what you're wearing, but how you wear it. You don't have swag if you dress real loud. As we grow we got to learn to use discretion. I think swag is discrete. People tell you that you ...

Probably one of the funnier days on my break was yesterday. My friend Harwons, some of you may know has this joke we say around women when they come around looking good or smelling nice or whatever. i.e let's say a friend come in the room with leggings on and starts dancing in front of us, we'd say something like "girl you can't just be doing that in front of me,I'm a grown ass man. It's just something stupid we do. well Yesterday my roommate suggested we start that as a trending topic on twitter, and we tweeted all day. What stood out to me was different people's idea of what being grown meant. But most responses surrounded around being responsible. Of course there were normal guy jokes in between, but for the most part, responses were about handling business. Seeing the ladies responses to his was also interesting. As there responses seemed to center more around being chivalrous. That's all good too I think being a grown man has to really do with a f...