Got Passion?





















I think a lot of women feel men they deal with lack passion and intimacy. I happen to feel those elements are priceless and should be included in any type of intimate act. There's different things that add to this.

Eye Contact- Might seem small but adds something to whatever you're doing. Enhances your connection with one another.

Music- I think music adds to even a simple massage. The right kind of music is an aphrodisiac in and of itself.

Dialogue- Y'all should be talking to each other, maybe not OD conversations lol but def clever little things.

I think the problem is society puts so much less emphasis on passion and intimacy. But I think it's absolutely imperative for a real good love/sex life. Passion is like the heart, the sex is like the blood. Without something pumping that blood, it's damn near useless. Our "love" reality shows on television don't put any emphasis on visceral emotion or feelings. This generation coming up has to learn somewhere, that really and truly it's the little things that make the biggest differences. Not what you do but how it's done. A little romance here and there never hurt anyone, even with someone you just messing with, make things interesting.
I just really think passion lacks in a lot of today's men. I have friends who I know for a fact are real selfish type lover's, not out of the High School mentality of women. It's a shame, you could take the horse to the well but maybe they not too thirsty. If you're parched, you might appreciate this. Passion is cool people, get into it.

Comments

  1. AnonymousJanuary 9, 2010 at 9:27 PM

    Dialogue = :)

    But seriously though, you're right... a lot of guys are really just out there to get their nut, and you can even tell by the way they approach women. If you get to know who your having sex with, you know what they like and you are able to have that connection with them. That's why people should get more in touch with the people they're having sex with and not just think of them as a "one night stand"... I mean that's always fun but what you practice becomes a habit, and you don't want that haha.

    -- good post, btw. :)

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  2. gJanuary 11, 2010 at 12:50 AM

    I love it, you definitely hit the nail on the head. . .I love l-o-v-e passion and intimacy, it just brings both people to that higher level of being connected to one another. . .And I feel that building that connection is essential to a successful and long lasting relationship or relations

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 10, 2010 at 4:39 PM

    Passion is so important, but like the ladies above said... most men forget about the importance of it. They need to be reading your blog. :)

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