Damn, He Got A Point

There is just something about 90 days. Checks go void if not cashed in 90 days. Warranties expire in 90 days. Some contractual clauses end in 90 days. Is there something special about three month rules? Must be so, much like Val (character on "Single Ladies"), many women have this period in which she won't be intimate with someone she's talking to. Often times you hear the three month or 90 day period talked about a lot. This is a strategy I believe and I think it is used for a variety of reasons. One reason could be to weed out guys a woman may think is a little suspect. Another reason may be that she would like to get to know someone clearly before deciding whether or not she wants to be involved. There are many scenarios in which this "rule" is implemented. My question tonight is does this help or hurt the getting to know or courting process? Of course you're getting the young man's point of view but I may not have the response you expect. I fir...

Many times when there is a problem involving me or not I don't usually get upset at what was done, but I seek to find why something was done. There's a cause for everything, and your reasons for doing what you do will dictate how you treat a situation. When you have pure intentions how you handle problems or issues would be different in contrast to if you didn't have pure intentions. I strongly think you cannot look for love and that with the right people and the right time you'll be able to experience that feeling with someone. You can't just create that on your own it has to be some kind of organic progression based on mutual respect at the very least. I think love commands respect. I compare that to athletes and how it's always said they should respect the game. What's meant by that is to know all that comes with the game, don't underestimate the work that goes into being great. Also be cognizant that your career could be over at any point, or to alw...

I know you're wondering where I'm going to start....I'm wondering too. To the women reading this boy do I know you have enough thoughts running through your head just based off the title. That's fine and dandy and that's exactly what I want. To the fellas reading this I'm just wondering if you ever seen things my way. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume all of us have had the "minute man" experience. A guy cums quick and _____ may ensue after. Depending on who you are you fill in that blank. As a guy you probably been through this enough through the years probably less as you got older. For the women this issue is a disappointment to say the least for the most part. I'm not here to stick up for anyone who cums quick or nothing like that. I'm just here to bring to light an observation for the fellas. Now I often believe women cannot imagine what it could possibly feel like being inside of them. The whole sexual act is based on you (the ...

It's quite hard to trust isn't it? For whatever your circumstance you're eventually faced with a dilemma. You know that ideally you can't not trust anyone ever in your life again. That is just irrational. We are human and we all need to and should be able to confide in others. There's a period of time when after we've been hurt you retreat a bit from everything. You don't put trust in much and that's purely a defense mechanism. We all reserve and deserve the right to always protect ourselves. Everyone goes through that point and I doubt anyone would blame you for it. With that being said, there comes a time in which you have to let go and simply start from scratch. You have to trust again. You don't necessarily have to trust the person who hurt you, but you have to trust in general. Other people can't be punished for another person's transgression. I've said it too many times before but you have to make a smart choice. You have to look ...

This is a struggle if there ever was one. Having wants and needs are normal and for some there's an invisible line of ambiguity in which they mistake one for the other many times. This is a struggle we have in different facets. In school it may be partying over studying. In a buffet it's the proverbial case of having your "eyes bigger than your stomach." That means putting more on your plate than you actually need to be eating. But in relationships there may be painful ramifications confusing wants and needs; and it needs to be clear. There are solid themes through a lot of my writing. I'm all about strong sense of self, being assertive making decisions for you and what's healthy for your circumstance. In an article I wrote for my school magazine call "Titles vs Relationships," I touched on wants versus needs. I spoke of wanting relationships at times when maybe you don't need one. In an article for my school paper called "If Loving You Is...

I have a saying I have now coined as of late which goes "There's nothing worse than a woman who feels justified." That may strike accord and luckily for you...and obviously, I will explain. When I say there's nothing worse than a justified woman I'm referring to those women who are "wrong and strong." Wrong and strong meaning you don't listen to reason, and you always feel you have things figured out. Those kinds of people don't take their own advice and quite frankly piss off others due to their own ignorance. A justified woman can also translate into a woman who also feels entitled, and this I'll now divulge more. I recently saw an episode of "Single Ladies" and the character Lisa Raye plays always has a game she runs on the fellas she sees. In this particular episode a guy she was seeing had sex with her, and didn't call her back. She was highly offended even though she has probably done the same in her past. I couldn't ...

I firmly believe as you get older and experience some things your mindset changes some as well. The greatest players have to adjust their game as they get older in order to still stay productive. We as men and women, athletes or not are no different. At about 12 or 13 years old my idea of the perfect girl was what I and my friend Terrence coined "The 4 B's." These "B's" were breast,booty,brains, and beauty. Jocular now, but we were dead serious back then. Of course this simply shows some ignorance of our age but nevertheless when you never been emotionally involved with someone it seems that simple. At every level of my life my taste has changed somewhat. Things that once mattered heavily to me may not matter as much now, and some things that didn't do. I'm well aware 9 years later that no breast and no booty doesn't mean a girl ain't perfect for me. Conversely maybe there is one woman with breast and booty it is lol. All jokes aside I think...