Is The Coast Clear?

It's quite hard to trust isn't it? For whatever your circumstance you're eventually faced with a dilemma. You know that ideally you can't not trust anyone ever in your life again. That is just irrational. We are human and we all need to and should be able to confide in others. There's a period of time when after we've been hurt you retreat a bit from everything. You don't put trust in much and that's purely a defense mechanism. We all reserve and deserve the right to always protect ourselves. Everyone goes through that point and I doubt anyone would blame you for it.

With that being said, there comes a time in which you have to let go and simply start from scratch. You have to trust again. You don't necessarily have to trust the person who hurt you, but you have to trust in general. Other people can't be punished for another person's transgression. I've said it too many times before but you have to make a smart choice. You have to look at your precious situation and take helpful things away from it. You will reach a point in which you're wondering if it's safe to confide in someone else again. There's no timetable for when that time comes but it's certain to come. When this time does come you have to now understand how you carry yourself in a way that you can possibly see the potential for being hurt before that time actually comes. Notice the patterns from past relationships from the beginning to feel out who is really worth your trust, affections etc.

When you do get hurt, many great things come out of it. You have the opportunity to learn, grow and avoid the same thing from happening again. It's your job to "get the memo." That opportunity is great, and you'll know yourself when the coast gets clear. What I mean by that is once you heal and smarten yourself up you'll naturally be ready to put yourself out there. The only difference will be that your going back into the "market" a different person...at least that's the goal I'd like to set for you. If you don't pay attention to details and improve you'll still get hurt by the same things and your ability to trust won't be supplemented. You have to keep an open mind and want to grow in order for you to gain this confidence to open up again. Understand the potential for hurt is always there but you have to trust your resiliency more than anything. If you don't have that then you really have nothing.