What's Good For The Goose.../ What To Watch For


I have a saying I have now coined as of late which goes "There's nothing worse than a woman who feels justified." That may strike accord and luckily for you...and obviously, I will explain. When I say there's nothing worse than a justified woman I'm referring to those women who are "wrong and strong." Wrong and strong meaning you don't listen to reason, and you always feel you have things figured out. Those kinds of people don't take their own advice and quite frankly piss off others due to their own ignorance. A justified woman can also translate into a woman who also feels entitled, and this I'll now divulge more.

I recently saw an episode of "Single Ladies" and the character Lisa Raye plays always has a game she runs on the fellas she sees. In this particular episode a guy she was seeing had sex with her, and didn't call her back. She was highly offended even though she has probably done the same in her past. I couldn't help but feel good that she got a little taste of her own medicine. Nevertheless she was bothered by this; mainly because she felt justified in her reasoning. She felt entitled to her phone call back and even more attention. Now don't get me wrong, if she was the type of person who wasn't constantly running game I'd say she had a point, but in this case what's good for the goose is good for the gander. This time she got got and that was that.

I would say she was "open" after she had sex with this dude and not for nothing I think most women do get like that. I warn a lot of friends to not be phased when women are "throwing the nani" because you always have to read between the lines. Between the lines you need to look out for these things.

1. Once she gives you her body she may feel entitled to ask more questions.

2 ." " she may begin to show up unexpectedly to just hang out.

3. She may think things are more than what they are even if you laid out some parameters of what your deal was.

This doesn't go for all women but it may go for many. A lot of women cannot handle casual sexual situations and they really do see having sex with someone as an emotional thing. Whether or not you're emotional about it doesn't make you immune to the baggage that comes with this. Once she gives you her body she may feel justified and entitled to do all of the aforementioned things and maybe even more. As a man it's your job to do your homework early on defense and prevent any of this from happening. This isn't about hurting anyone's feelings, you want to run an honest business and having unhappy customers is surely #badforbusiness.

Once again I'm not targeting all women in this post, just those who are wrong and strong

Comments

  1. CarrymelJune 17, 2011 at 5:00 PM

    ohhh I see somebody joined 20 something bloggers! lol welcome :)

    I agree with this post - women shouldn't expect something unwarranted when they do the same thing themselves. I happen to know some people like that. . .:O

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  2. KimJune 17, 2011 at 10:36 PM

    I go to Capella University.

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  3. AnonymousJune 19, 2011 at 9:43 PM

    You made a great point about women and the relationship they have when it comes to sex. It takes a special kind of woman to have sex "like a guy" without any emotional attachment. Most women do feel that they are entitled to "rights" after sex and that is where the trouble begins.

    In "Single Ladies", Keisha (Lisa Raye) had sex with this man several times, but it hadn't been any type of emotional aspect attached to the relationship until that last time. (Hence her feeling entitled to a phone call back.) It's so hard sometimes... you really need to be on the same page as your partner about what happens/changes after sex.

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