Damn, He Got A Point

Courtesy: Global News Editor's Note: As of August 26th, 2020, the Milwaukee Bucks took a stance to boycott their game 5 playoff game in respect of the shooting of Jacob Blake in Kenosha Wisconsin. The following piece was published on August 24th, 2020 before I knew any details of this senseless act as well. Following the Bucks' lead, the other teams scheduled to participate on August 26th's games have decided to boycott in the NBA as well as the WNBA. The Milwaukee Brewers and Cincinnati Reds of the MLB have also decided to boycott their game on August 26th. The following article is meant to highlight the great strides the NBA has taken in combating the health crisis in this country as well as the racial injustice that we as Black people experience. I still support the restart of the NBA, and I also understand the optics and visibility a boycott at this point gives the cause at large. I commend all who chose to demonstrate in this way, and I hope to see continued strategic

Courtesy: Variety Well, what a weekend!  This past Friday the long awaited Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett-Smith debuted. Much to our delight Will joined in as well. We awaited Jada's recounting of her trysts with one August Alsina . What we ultimately learned is that Jada found herself tripped up in an "entanglement" of sorts. What we learned as this episode progressed was that this all went on about 4 years ago and it was already addressed in the Smith household. In the Black community, the Will and Jada dynamic has been a pillar. It has been something many people love to aspire to; the longevity of a Black marriage. The question has always been "What's the secret?" Well as time has passed, you see that a lot of the secrets in longevity is steeped in a relationship's imperfections. What Will and Jada have shown is that they have done the work to create systems that help them with crisis management. Beyond just communicating, there has to b

Courtesy: The Grio I'm not too familiar with B. Simone . I don't know many fellas that might be either. But I do know that she has found some new success and recently took social media by storm. During an interview with Nick Cannon she stated that because of her lifestyle as an entrepreneur, she couldn't possibly date a man who worked a  9-5 job. Nick tried to make a contrary case, but she was vehemently adamant that that just wasn't her thing. Many found those thoughts to be ignorant, myself included. I'm in no way offended by what B. Simone said. But I do think it goes to show the quality of people she has dated and how they approach relationships. As I've gotten older and dated more deliberately, I often thought about roles. Not necessarily gender roles, but simply thinking about my own qualities and talents. What am I good at? What is she good at? How can I add to her life? I feel that beyond protecting your partner or helping to provide that you

Courtesy: VideoBlocks It might've taken a pandemic, but I think the world is leaning towards more organic communication again. The Coronavirus has inadvertently given us more time on our hands as we continue to practice social distancing. Contemporary dating culture is a topic that has come up with me in conversations that I've had during this social distancing era. Whether through text or virtual happy hours, there were a lot of parallels.  A lot of the conversation surrounded around the Hinge app and the lackluster crop of guys that women find on there. They negatively cited things like hood nicknames on there and the listed interests, namely, "you know the vibes." There was also the sentiment discussed of knowing where a woman stands and deciding to "waste" her time anyway. It dawned on me that there are just habits that guys have that I don't think they shake as they get older. Their idea towards dating and what it's supposed to mean does

                                   Courtesy: Oprah Magazine About 6 years ago I wrote a piece on SBM called  " How Would You React to Having A Gay Child? " It was written within the context of thinking what if parenting is nothing like what I expect it to be? I wanted to challenge myself to think about who I was at my core; was my love conditional? What I did to gain some clarity was think about my father growing up. I only lived with him for about 7 years and even with as flawed as he was, I thought he was  that dude. At that moment, I realized that was all that mattered. My kid will place me on a pedestal by default. I've got to love them the same way. This week Dwyane Wade's family has been at the forefront of the news because his 12 year old daughter Zaya decided that she would like to now be referred to as a girl. Sexual orientation conversations are some of the most polarizing in contemporary society. Without fail, this story and its revelation ha

Courtesy: Everything Girls Love It's been 6 years since The Best Man Holiday released.  After going out to catch that movie, a conversation ensued where I heard the phrase that a man should love a woman more than she loves him. Naturally, I wrote about it. You can read the piece here.  At the time I didn't agree with the phrase and I saw it more at a surface level. But with time, experience and growth, I now view the phrase differently. Initially I felt like people should go into relationships as equals in pretty much every sense. But as of late, I've been thinking about what kind of man I'd want a future child of mine to date, or my niece, or any other lady family member for that matter. What began to occur was that I started thinking about what it means to date deliberately. What is trying to be accomplished? I realized that no matter what, I'm trying to convey that the said person is my clear choice. The whole idea of a man "loving" a