Damn, He Got A Point

I believe men have stronger friendships with each other than women do with each other. I have a need to feel that men are more loyal to their guys than ladies are to their girls. Now let's not be fooled, the above photo isn't illustrating backstabbing women. I simply couldn't pass up putting up the picture lol, these women are fine. But anyway, for the last few weeks this has been a topic of interest on my mind. The funny thing is this has been a topic of interest on the minds of some of my guy friends as well. You see many times our experiences as men parallel one another. We find common ground make jokes and sense out of things. All of us men are intrigued by the droves of women we meet who say what seems all too usual : I don't have many girlfriends. I'll go on record and say that guys hate hearing that. Our conscience simply whispers "uh oh" once that phrase is uttered and this post will serve as to why. Now the last thing I want to do is general...

I suffer from a problem ladies and gentlemen. As a matter of fact many of us men suffer from a problem. I will go on record and say that by standards of "machismo" this will be one of my most sappiest posts yet. I do feel it is important though to get inside the psyche of a "good guy." Some might even call me too good. But for every victory is a story and to every madness there's a method. My story might be similar to many. And today I want you to see the real struggle it is walking the line of being too good or soft of a guy, and being complete asshole. This was more of a disclaimer than an introduction... but y'all bear with the kid. My early childhood was quite hectic. I wouldn't change it for nothing as I did so much shit that people my age now still haven't done. I was able to travel, and i was really fortunate enough to have a warm family. I'm lucky for that, and I'm always appreciative. But there was another side of my childhood...

It's our goal not to end up looking like this guy right here ^^^. Anyway at work today my friend Jean suggested I give my critique on Drake's song with Stevie Wonder called "Doing It Wrong. If you have been reading lately I recently gave my perspective on Trey Songz' Me 4 U Infidelity 2. Truth be told this Drake track struck me when I first heard it as well. Tonight I want to talk about doing it wrong Now in my next Column for Viral Status I'll be talking about how people stay in relationships sometimes out of feeling obligated. So please look out for that, but I find this song to somewhat match up with that topic. "When a good thing goes bad it's not the end of the world." You could've fooled me! Right? Well the guy is right it isn't the end of the world. Having been through some things I know it sure as hell feels like it's the closest thing to Armageddon; it might as well be. That feeling of loss or separation from a loved one is c...

Above all else this post is about my maturation as a man. I take it as a responsibility to let my readers know of when I feel inspired to say something. It's important to me to challenge guys in my age group, and open their minds up. I'm going to go on a self inflicted tangent but trust me, it will all tie together in the end. In college I became a big fan of philosophy. Being a Psychology major I thought it was a good way to push my thinking. If you know me you know that I can be quite analytical, I love making complex what may seem so simple. In that mindset as well philosophy always begs to question. To me it was the devil's advocate for life. My favorite philosopher was Nietzsche. Many people aren't fans of him due to the fact that he was an atheist. Now I'm personally not an atheist, and I have nothing against anyone who is. As far as I'm concerned we'll all find out the truth sooner or later lol (Not really lol; I like life). But I see past his re...

A long time ago I wrote a Post called "Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?" In that Post I briefly talked about whether or not being a "nice guy" was essentially a detriment. In the long run it isn't. For some reason I think this post relates to it somewhat. I think they intertwine somewhere. But I speak today of a situation in which I think so many of us have been in at one point of another. If anything it shows great vulnerability to even speak about it, but it has it's relevance. Have you ever broke up with someone just to see them move on into worse situations? Ever think to yourself well damn at least upgrade? Well thanks to good ol' Beyonce'  she gave many women an anthem when she dropped "Upgrade You." Nevertheless the philosophy makes a heck of a lot  of sense. It may be one of the worst feelings when someone else is chosen over you, or you lose someone to someone else whom you feel isn't worthy by any means. For some of you...

Took a while for this inspiration but it was due to an interesting conversation with one of my boys that spawned this. Back in February I wrote a piece called Spitting Images which was really about how I felt women take after their mothers even in ways they don't want to admit. Check it out if you like! But I had an interesting conversation with my friend where we were speaking of why some men have problems with women. We spoke of this in the breath of a guy's confidence in speaking to a woman and approaching them the right way. Truth be told we know guys our age who are just timid. They  haven't found themselves as it relates to women I guess and haven't figured out how to spark and keep someone's interest. In that same thought my friend posed this question to me: Do you think not having male figures present in your life makes it harder for you to approach and be comfortable with women? I thought it was a challenging question, I think thee could be some corre...

"Even though I'm doing wrong girl, you can never move along girl." That's a statement full of moxy isn't it? Today I wanted to break down a song for you all. The song is off Trey Songz new mixtape called Anticipation 2. Anticipation originally came about as some material he was releasing before his third album "Ready." Well The first Anticipation mixtape was amazing, and in this new project he has a few songs that serve as sequels to their predecessor. One of these songs is called "Me 4 U" Infidelity part 2. Allow me to briefly paint the picture of the concept for you. The first song off the first mixtape was called "Infidelity" and it's pretty much Trey or the character he's describing showing appreciation for a woman who stuck with him through all the mess he put her through. He goes onto to actually say that the woman deserves someone better than him. Sounds fair enough right? Well in what I would call damn near the best...