Why Men Can't And Shouldn't Try To Change What They Liked In The First Place

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I like to think that I have an affinity for finding the pulse of what folks are  talking about. A huge catalyst to this is Twitter. A few days ago I came across this tweet that made me think:




I have never agreed with trying to change who a person is. The mere thought of that is pretty exhausting. We are in an age now where people of all walks are more confident in living exactly how they want to. This includes women and their right and desire to define themselves in our society.

Gone are the days where women choose to remain silent. Women are living with more conviction than ever. In this viral society, our eyes are captivated by dope pictures and insightful, truthful quotes that cause us to "like" them. A lot of what us men double tap on are provocative pictures, or messaging that supports a woman's fluid sexuality.

But as it was alluded to above, what we see as men draws us in. But we have to also be clear about what it is that we want. We can't be drawn to women who are vocal and get with them and expect them to be silent. You cannot try to be with a woman that grabbed your attention by being overtly sexual and expect that because you're around now, she has to scale things back.

This is all about us knowing what we want and what we believe we can handle. When we try to change people, nothing good comes from it. That experience can only lead to aggravation. If two people have fundamental differences where they can't reach a compromise, then it's time to explore other people. No one changes unless they see for themselves why changing would be beneficial for them. Most people have to come to those realizations on their own.

Shaming a lot of these women for being vocal about how they decide to live or what they decide to wear doesn't do much in the grand scheme of things. This is the climate of vocality and as 2018 ends, it behooves us to accept that and learn to adapt. Don't blame any woman for not being the woman who you need them to be, take your time and find one that is already what you need them to be.

These are my words and I make no apologies.

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