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LOVE!

We can blab a whole bunch on this subject can't we? It really doesn't stop. And that's alright because love is all good. The older I get the more I see it manifested and interpreted differently by everyone.

Over the weekend a friend of mine asked in our group chat if attaining a storybook sort of love was possible. Let's call it almost like a Utopian sort of thing. There were a myriad of responses. What was obvious and what I said was that love means something different to all of us. What made me love a certain woman might not mean anything to someone else, but for me it was everything. I didn't believe there was any Utopian type love. I think that initial falling in love process is extremely Utopian, damn near euphoric.

But love on it's own seems so uncompromising. It lasts long, it's strong; it's like the most honest promise you make to someone else. For that reason is why you have to be frugal with whom you allow yourself to have those emotions for. I never thought it should be taken lightly and don't now.

I've been fortunate to have loved and to still appreciate what that love has brought to my life. Love should leave this profound mark, whether you're still with the person or not. Love should leave you with something amazing. I'm a much better person for having experienced such things. Some lessons I learned the hard way and relationships aren't always glamorous. All that withstanding it's the deep promise you profess or that love that remains paramount.

So as much as we all love differently, or love different things about someone, at it's most basic level, love is a promise. So with all those differences I think we can all agree that the one we love will always have us in their corner.

Just some thought, I do think I was babbling. Honest words nonetheless.

What are your thought?

Be good


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  1. AnonymousNovember 6, 2012 at 5:32 AM

    I really agree with the part about love leaving a mark. If its really love, it should leave the person changed in some way...hopefully for the better. But if not, I guess that's where the "a lover scorned" expression comes from. Great post, Dr.Love. :)

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  2. AnonymousNovember 11, 2012 at 10:55 PM

    I'm in love with a man for many reasons. And you are absolutely right, what makes me love him may not mean anything to someone else. Our love is utopian because its an ongoing race, we work at it everyday. So like a great work-out, you feel pain and may even get a few blisters or cramps. You sweat, get tired and thirsty. But every time you look at yourself and begin to see results, it motivates you through the next work-out. Basically, I love him because he works hard...through everything we go through (good or bad)to show his love. And that means everything to me.

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