Deadbeat.....Dates

Almost gotcha there, this post is not about deadbeat dads. Those guys have gotten enough attention. Today's post is about something a bit different. I'm looking to delve into this topic of dating. A lot is made of what is proper dating etiquette. In an attempt to show everyone that chivalry is alive and well I implore you to open your mind up to this post and my next post on www.viralstatus.com .

I'm an avid user and enthusiast of twitter. Pretty much daily I'm on that thing, it provides me with some insights and a whole hell of a lot of entertainment. This past week one of my homegirls sort of went on a semi rant. She stated something to the effect of a guy expecting to not pay on the first date. I found her statement intriguing. I asked her if it's something she has come across often and she said "Yes."  I then put on my "hmm" face and went and began to ask around. As it turns out, many women that I got responses from said they had run into that deadbeat guy who either didn't want to pay on the first date or didn't have the funds! Does it shock you? Well it damn sure shocked me and you all are going to get a little more than my two cents this morning.

We all have pride and we all have ego. I would even say that ego and pride are synonymous. With that being said I think men are and should be very prideful beings. men shouldn't be too stubborn or naive, but prideful. Dictionary.com defines pride as  a high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc. In a nutshell pride to me is always putting your best foot forward above all things. By no means are we perfect but effort is everything. For a guy to not be willing to pay for a first date just sounds weak to me... extremely WEAK! You can't be real dude with that kind of mentality. You're essentially a provider by nature, why in the name of Jah would you run from that. As a man you should jump at any opportunity to flex those man muscles.

I do think women can pay for dates sometimes without question. But you as a man should want to make a great first impression. Paying the bill with gratuity included should be nothing but a thing to you. To the fellas that went out the crib without bread should just have a seat. I was always taught as a man you never leave the crib without money in your pocket. Furthermore if you know you're going on a date you should govern yourself accordingly. My boy Lejorne has this rule he follows where he says he chooses the two most expensive dishes and multiplies it by two to see if he could afford it. Now I don't use that strategy, but it's a great one. Truth be told if I don't have the money my ass is staying in plain and simple. If you don't have the funds do not make an ass out of yourself, postpone chilling for another time.

While in this realm of talking about dates and spending money I think there is also another confounding variable. This variable I'm speaking of is the type of women these guys are taking out. What I mean by that is if a dude won't break a little bread on you then you're not too high on his list of priorities. A wise man once said that it costs to care, and in this regard it does. If you as a man are out with a woman who's not worth your money...then she's not worth being out with period. Save your efforts to your TV and your netflix if that be the case. To you ladies who have experienced these half ass fellas I pray to God you didn't throw them any type of pums. Those fellas ain't deserving. I've said this on my blog til I've been blue but demand your worth out here... you'll get it. By the way I'm sorry you've had to deal with such things, it's a dog on shame. Until next time y'all; be good.