Unconditional

Our lives are pretty much based on conditions, circumstances, and contingencies. The fact that I'm here writing this is based on a condition. My father met my mother, and therefore had me eventually and there you go. Our lives revolve around these things. When you come to school the idea is do get good grades, and usually when you don't bad things happen. If you don't perform up to par you get suspended or expelled etc. The way we live day to day are under conditions, we have laws in our society. Our laws expect a certain behavior out of us. Our society prefers that we be civil and moral. When we violate those laws, once again bad things happen that doesn't benefit you.

You may be asking what this has to do how men and women relate to each other. It may not be an issue that you see as important but it creates a great discussion. We all have standards. we all have things we are willing to tolerate from each other, and things that we're not. I touched on this in my blog post called "Patterns." Is there anything in this world that is unconditional? Well if you're the spiritual type you'd say the love of God is unconditional and that's cool and valid. Some would say that the love a parent has for their child is unconditional.... that may be true in most cases. But to be really honest there aren't many instances in life where things are unconditional. I promise you that the woman or man you love the most can lose your love if they did something horrendous to a loved one of yours. That isn't unconditional by any means.

Now granted the scenario I just presented can be called far fetched for sure but it doesn't erase the fact that you cannot avoid conditions. If you're in a situation in which you're looking out in the best interest of yourself and someone else is it wrong that you set some conditions that would stand to help the both of you? If you yourself have a problem with conditioning I can understand, maybe it sounds like rules, rules, rules all the time. no one wants to feel constraint, but maybe it's a problem because you may not like those particular conditions. For instance You may not mess with someone because they stink. That's your condition, and many people will agree with that so many won't have a problem with it. Since a scenario like that is so common it goes over your head, you don't see that as a condition. Truth is we'll never escape conditions, and the only time we'd be bothered is when we don't agree with a condition, but we all have many conditions and we always will. With all that being said you can never be in any relationship without having conditions, the only difference is that they'll all be different.