Under The Influence


I watched a video on youtube last week in regard to women, and how they "price their pussy." As jocular as the video was the man in it made some great points. Although he surely comes off as brash and some may consider him an asshole; he spoke the truth. I was surely blown away by his candid rhetoric and I had no choice but to at least respect that.

In the video I found that he made one very poignant point. He proceeded to say that women are in competition with each other trying to see the highest "price" they could get for their pussy. When he referred to price he didn't necessarily mean money, but gifts and dates as well etc. When I thought of it I thought it made perfect sense. In my mind there's an eclectic group of women in their circle. Give or take one or two, you have a cuffed chick, a chick that has something she's messing with, a chick that is in a bad situation that wants out, and your proverbial single woman. Now even at times in my own circle I'd see one of my fellas enjoying the fruits of the "married" life and think hey would be nice to have something that worked out like that. It's not an issue I necessarily press though; it's no biggie. I think women internalize things differently. It's the basis of the Chris Rock joke where he says men see their mans with a girl and say "boy I got to get me someone like her." On the other hand he says when women see their girl with a good man the woman says "I have to get HIM." Although totally a joke, it plays on the whole notion of women secretly in a little competition.

It's my feeling that women are influenced by other women in their circle. They're not necessarily influenced in the type of guy they want, but more so how they are treated and standards they decide to set. If a girl is in a group and one of her girlfriends say "my man took me out for drinks and dessert," and that girl realizes "shit I ain't get taken nowhere except Kennedy Fried Chicken," she'd have a fit. Subsequently shorty steps up her standards in order to stay on par with her circle. Now of course this situation is exaggerated, but should a woman allow her surroundings to dictate what she feel is "worth" or does she define it herself?

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Why Does The "WYD Guy" Exist and How Do We Get Rid of Him?

Image
It baffles me that in my late 20's I still hear stories about guys who lack conversational skills. I've alluded to this in past pieces, one of which you can check out here . That piece was written over 3 years ago. Today this type of guy is labeled as the "wyd guy." He's the dude that texts "wyd" ad nauseam throughout a given day.  Over the past few months, I've noticed that women continue to deal with this kind of person. I was curious to know what some experiences were like for you ladies. I reached out to a few good women to pick their brain. Hopefully you all share the goods. Let's get into it. Have you seen a decline in male conversational skills through the years? Tass :  First question. I haven't seen any studies suggesting a decline in the conversational skills of men. What I personally see is the continuation of low expectations and accountability for men unable to have strong communication skills outside of business/sport
Read more

Maybe Men Are Trash

Image
Admittedly, in younger years I was one of those "not all men" type of men.  Please bare with me as I feel the collective eye rolls of any woman reading this. But in recent times I'm noticing that what I was doing in those former moments was not taking myself out of the equation. At the time I thought that I was, but I really wasn't. In recent years, through my dating journeys and speaking with different women, I realize that there are just way too many horror stories about men out there. In the past I've touched on subjects like first date conversations , or the corniness of leaking nudes , or guys being selfish in bed , but the issues I continue to hear far surpass even any of those things. I mean I've heard stories of men lacking taking initiative or just not possessing common courtesy. Hell, men paying on dates still rile up anyone's timeline. I began to think that there are way too many egregious transgressions we commit as men to disagree with what th
Read more

Maybe A Man Should Love A Woman More Than She Loves Him?

Image
Courtesy: Everything Girls Love It's been 6 years since The Best Man Holiday released.  After going out to catch that movie, a conversation ensued where I heard the phrase that a man should love a woman more than she loves him. Naturally, I wrote about it. You can read the piece here.  At the time I didn't agree with the phrase and I saw it more at a surface level. But with time, experience and growth, I now view the phrase differently. Initially I felt like people should go into relationships as equals in pretty much every sense. But as of late, I've been thinking about what kind of man I'd want a future child of mine to date, or my niece, or any other lady family member for that matter. What began to occur was that I started thinking about what it means to date deliberately. What is trying to be accomplished? I realized that no matter what, I'm trying to convey that the said person is my clear choice. The whole idea of a man "loving" a
Read more