Tug of War Part 1

Life is a constant struggle. That's not to say that life is always cumbersome, but gives it's fair share of challenges. Amongst many of it's challenges, we face battles amongst ourselves. It's not easy, the world expects a lot out of us and we expect a whole lot out of ourselves as well. From the male perspective as we grow it's only right we go through an emotional metamorphosis. There are certain things we should begin to learn about ourselves. As we get older the name of the game is "doing," the time for talk dwindles as we age.

As men we should always be looking to better ourselves. To try and be inspired everyday is a great start. We struggle with our growth simply being so accustomed to our juvenile ways. It's never an easy thing to step into uncharted territory, but some things need to happen in order to grow. Grasping the idea of manhood is something a responsible person would look to do. After all, one of the main differences between a man and a boy is he who handles one's responsibilities.

When I speak of responsibilities it's now going way beyond the classroom or your workplace. I'd like to think that the foundation of responsibility lies in you and how you treat people. What kind of friend are you? Do you always say what's needed to be said? Interesting right?! I know I can't even check all of that off, but what i do know is that growth as everything else is a process. I recognize this and will work more diligently to become an even better person.

To be the man you want to be you owe it to yourself to be a man of integrity and character. Be the discreet man, and be a gentleman. Being a gentleman doesn't show weakness, but it does show intelligence; as you show you understand the importance of the so called "little things." I am too strong of a believer that if anyone is going to want you, you have to be the best you that you can be. It's not easy as all habits are hard to shake. Even smokers still smoke even when the box CLEARLY states you just might die from this product. Know that with your growth comes action. Don't feed into your weakness if it's something you know you're trying to stray away from. So understand that we are not perfect, but we have to take steps in the right direction.

Barack Obama once said that "We have to internalize the idea, or philosophy of perfection, enough time isn't spent doing that." When you really do internalize it you realize perfection is impossible, but effort always is. The better men we are, the better responses from women we'll get, from the women we really deserve.

I got the ladies on Part 2