The Road to Success


If we all had it our way, all our dreams would come true just when we wanted them to. We wouldn't have hardships, we'd just be cruising through. Truth is that's not impossible... for many of us at least. Some people do have it easy, they "luck out." That's fine and dandy but for the rest of us we need to understand some things. In every facet of live we're going to have to work for our happiness. Don't be down about the idea, because if you want to be happy you'll make it happen.

As it relates to relationships understand there are going to be many ways to your happiness. Unfortunately what you envision your situation to be may not exactly be that way at the moment. I'm a believer that things happen when they're supposed to and that's something that can't be rushed. If you're with someone that you feel is "the one," then that's a beautiful thing. Them being "the one" definitely doesn't mean there's going to be bumps, or that you all are "the ones" for each other right now. We're constantly growing and changing together. With the right person you'll respect and appreciate the positive changes and that's how many are able to stay together. But sometimes unexpected things will happen.

As the picture for this blog post I have my favorite wrestler in life Shawn Michaels. I won't preach you to death but I want to get a point across. I had followed Shawn Michaels probably since I could see a television, I witnessed his rise to success. The picture you see there was taken in 1996 at Wrestlemania 12 where Shawn Michaels finally won the heavyweight championship. Now call it fake or what have you, but the point being is in that line of business that's the biggest promotion you can get. He began wrestling in 1985, so it took 11 years of physically hurting yourself in order to reach his dream.Things couldn't have possibly always went his way backstage, but he trusted himself and his situation. For a guy who wasn't too big, in a world of huge champions he still made it happen. It happened because he didn't rush it, he worked hard, and never lost site of his goal.

There will be detours in your road to success and keeping relationships going alone is a hardship, and a break isn't ever a bad thing as long as respect is maintained. It's not realistic to think things will always pan out your way. You're going to have to do things sometimes that you might not want to do. It's not a death sentence, but more so an opportunity to grow and come back to each other as even better people...doesn't that sound great!!!!!! Yea i thought so too. Embrace the fact that when the goings get rough, that's all apart of the game, I'm sure every Chef has burned themselves at least once as well. Your situations can be a success but you have to make the most logical decisions in order for it to turn out that way.

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