The Lap of Luxury


Are your dreams like mine? Are your dreams pretty much like many others? You know the whole idea of financial security and the complete nuclear family. Having a loving relationship, obedient children, and a career you love. It sounds lovely and I happen to believe it's highly attainable. Of course these things will not fall in your lap, you got to bust your ass for it and even that's easier said than done.

More times than not you're going to really have to go through it to reap these benefits. They say you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to get to your Prince....what the fellas got to do to get to their queen lol? No but really to kind of continue a past post i wrote entitled "Teach Me A Lesson," You have to take your different relationships for what they were. I think sometimes your whole philosophy on relationships have to change. We have to appreciate our lessons, whether they were in our favor or not. In my mind to learn these lessons is a privilege. We don't "need" to be with anyone, so when you do decide to settle down make sure you understand that a relationship is a luxury.

Whenever you lose something luxurious you do miss it. A luxury adds something to you; it's a compliment to you. We should all be compliments to each other, but we must individually be complete. There are no "we complete each others." You have to be whole, and you really have to be in love with you before you truly can enjoy the perks of a relationship. Everyone doesn't have luxury and that's why it's special. We all don't have diamonds or penthouses...why not? We're simply not in those positions as yet, but we hope to get ourselves into that prime position. So with that, you know that you have to get your self in a prime position to be an owner of a luxury as a successful relationship. It won't always work out but eventually if you are dead sure about yourself, you become dead sure about what YOU want. You take these steps and sooner or later you too can live in the lap of luxury.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Why Does The "WYD Guy" Exist and How Do We Get Rid of Him?

Image
It baffles me that in my late 20's I still hear stories about guys who lack conversational skills. I've alluded to this in past pieces, one of which you can check out here . That piece was written over 3 years ago. Today this type of guy is labeled as the "wyd guy." He's the dude that texts "wyd" ad nauseam throughout a given day.  Over the past few months, I've noticed that women continue to deal with this kind of person. I was curious to know what some experiences were like for you ladies. I reached out to a few good women to pick their brain. Hopefully you all share the goods. Let's get into it. Have you seen a decline in male conversational skills through the years? Tass :  First question. I haven't seen any studies suggesting a decline in the conversational skills of men. What I personally see is the continuation of low expectations and accountability for men unable to have strong communication skills outside of business/sport...
Read more

Maybe A Man Should Love A Woman More Than She Loves Him?

Image
Courtesy: Everything Girls Love It's been 6 years since The Best Man Holiday released.  After going out to catch that movie, a conversation ensued where I heard the phrase that a man should love a woman more than she loves him. Naturally, I wrote about it. You can read the piece here.  At the time I didn't agree with the phrase and I saw it more at a surface level. But with time, experience and growth, I now view the phrase differently. Initially I felt like people should go into relationships as equals in pretty much every sense. But as of late, I've been thinking about what kind of man I'd want a future child of mine to date, or my niece, or any other lady family member for that matter. What began to occur was that I started thinking about what it means to date deliberately. What is trying to be accomplished? I realized that no matter what, I'm trying to convey that the said person is my clear choice. The whole idea of a man "loving" a ...
Read more

Maybe Men Are Trash

Image
Admittedly, in younger years I was one of those "not all men" type of men.  Please bare with me as I feel the collective eye rolls of any woman reading this. But in recent times I'm noticing that what I was doing in those former moments was not taking myself out of the equation. At the time I thought that I was, but I really wasn't. In recent years, through my dating journeys and speaking with different women, I realize that there are just way too many horror stories about men out there. In the past I've touched on subjects like first date conversations , or the corniness of leaking nudes , or guys being selfish in bed , but the issues I continue to hear far surpass even any of those things. I mean I've heard stories of men lacking taking initiative or just not possessing common courtesy. Hell, men paying on dates still rile up anyone's timeline. I began to think that there are way too many egregious transgressions we commit as men to disagree with what th...
Read more