Teach Me A Lesson


People love to badger their ex's names. Granted many times things do end on bad terms, maybe they might have been the wrong person. I challenge you today, not to find "the one," or a soul mate but to find someone of substance. This is the deal, I don't expect people to be super serious at the age I'm at, but I think we all should have positive learning experiences. Choose to give someone who will help you grow priority over people who won't.

People sometimes help you discover things about yourself that you didn't know existed. You can take positive things from a negative situation. Fifty says "The women in my life bring confusion to shit." A lot of men may feel the same, and it might be true but sometimes they want something more out of you, or they want you to learn something. Same goes for women, find someone that compliments you and gives you a different view on things.

As time progresses, if you happen to grow apart you don't want your time to have been wasted, and that's a big problem for people. I promise you if the people you deal with from now on make you better in some way or you take a good lesson from the situation you will never feel like your time is wasted. You should feel good since the next person is going to get the upgraded version of course still with minor kinks. Be well....

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