Growth Demands Change

A word of advice we all get after a break up and/ or heartbreak is that "if it comes around again it's meant to be."

Is this phrase really true? As we get older, a constant lesson to learn is to always use discretion. Discretion is wisdom, discretion is intelligence, discretion is being logical. With that being said, sometimes that love comes around again...or maybe the person does. It doesn't mean "woohoo" let's pick up where we left off. What it does mean is "hey what went wrong last time?" and what has changed with us between then and now.

This is not a one sided deal. You have to become introspective. You need to know how you have grown since the prior time. You also have recognize where you may have come up short at times. Are you willing to compromise and change...or have you changed some things that may have been troublesome? Once you have looked at you, then you can begin looking at the other person. Have they grown in the areas that matter to you?

You both deserve the updated versions of each other. When a movie is re-made we always hope its better than the original, whether or not it lives up is another story but we expect it better the next time around. Using discretion is doing what makes sense. What makes sense is giving yourself a fair opportunity to have a legitimate crack at this relationship the second time around. Legitimate meaning a second chance in which you both are clear about what is new, and what was wrong previously. If you still see elements in someone that you're still not fond of, then it doesn't make sense to try n start something that was over before it began. The seat belt light don't turn off till you put on the seat belt. Be wise and make discrete choices.