All That Glitters.........

So why does it seem bad (negative) thing always happen to good people?

It's a very valid question, which I think only has one true answer. In Martin Lawrence's "Runtelldat" stand up, he says more than once, "No one is immune to the trials and tribulations of life." It's the sole reason why bad things will continue to happen to us. By "bad things" also consider certain things not going your way.

What does this have to do with our relations with each other? It's important to be mature enough to know what works best for your situation, as people. You have to remain cognizant that as good as we are, or we may think we are, sometimes things won't add up. Just like anything else, something can look real good till you try it. A nice cake always looks like a nice cake, but the frosting sometimes makes or breaks it. Problem is the frosting always looks nice, till you taste it.
What the hell am I talking about? Sometimes relationships seem like the best idea, that good feeling you got when looking at it seemed to be it. You was ready for the relationship like you were ready for the cake. You get into the situation and the frosting just don't taste right, but you still love the cake, but the frosting really gets in the way.

What sense am I trying to make? My point being is we're not all meant for what we'd like to be meant for. Sometimes it just doesn't work. There aint a thing wrong with wearing jeans....but you can't just show up to a wedding with it, you're not meant for that place. It's a heartbreaking thing to tell someone they do have it all, but it's just not going right. It doesn't even sound logical by any means. Relationships hold so many intangibles that you just can't prepare for them all. I've had conversations with people torn with decisions of what to tell someone, and it's definitely easier said than done.

What's worse is that these obstacles are not foreseeable, you're in the funny predicament of trying to be discreet and not hurting anyone in the process. But this game is not one without casualties, and all that glitters is not gold. My sincerest advice is the old faithful, honesty is the best policy. You initially may scold someone but they have no choice but to respect your honesty in that case. The pain promotes growth, and the growth demands change.