A Thin Line

I am a strong believer in the phrase "persistence pays off." Persistence brings great success. To be persistent does many things, it shows interest, it shows drive, it shows ambition. It shows you have something in mind you truly want to attain.

This is also true when it comes to wanting someone. When you court someone it involves persistence. My question is, is persistence the same thing if the interest is not reciprocated? There's a very thin line between being interested, or being persistent and being a nuisance.

Once you are a nuisance you do not want to be heard from in any or a certain capacity. A nuisance only becomes a nuisance by being overly persistent with someone with whom doesn't have the same particular interest. I think to show interest in subtle ways is the best ways to go. Little hints and flirts can get the ball rolling, and you work from there.

I think the problem arises when someone begins being "fiendish." It's a huge turnoff and really sets you back more than helps you progress. To detect which side you fall on make sure the person you are interested in, at least entertains some of your approaches positively, it's usually a pretty good sign. If you're constantly getting shut down.... you might have crossed the line and you might just be becoming a nuisance.