Enough


Ever stay in situations you weren't happy in? I know I sound like an anti-depressant drug commercial but it's very common. I think it's very normal for a lot of women to want to try and amend situations. The feeling of salvaging something worth it is usually the words uttered.

What should be understood is that if you take the same approaches, you get the same results. If you think you're saving something...the both of you have to want to save it. That being said, you both have new sacrifices to make. If you both agree to that then I think you may be successful in saving your relationship.

The downside is if you are in this alone, you're in trouble. Whenever feelings aren't quite reciprocated there will always be disparity. You have to learn to be honest with yourself. It's not the easiest thing to let something go. On the contrary it's quite hard but it just might be for the best. I feel it's when you stay in a bad situation longer than you should is when the pain of leaving might be more unbearable.

Some of the things in life that are best for you are not the easiest to do. It takes logic, and intelligence to know that. Ultimately it's the best for you to realize and be honest with yourself, and know when enough is enough.

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  1. AnonymousMay 14, 2010 at 1:25 AM

    I definitely agree. I was actually in a situation like this where i felt like i had to do whatever i could to keep the relationship together. Realizing i was the only one who was putting any effort in to make the relationship work, i had to make the decision to leave. The saying "anything worth having is worth fighting for" is great & all, but if the other person isn`t willing to make it work with you, theres no point. A relationship involves two people.

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