The Rollercoaster of Love Part 3- Crash Landing?


The title of this post depends on one of the two people in the relationship. You can either be respectful and upfront and end things amicable, while still leaving with some dignity, or you might take a cowards way out and deceive someone. Either way there are some subtle signs when you realize things aren't quite right. Things aren't the way things used to be. In my experience at least I realize that the conversations change. Your significant other seems to be on the defensive on some things a little more, and you're wondering what the hell is the problem. Maybe they want to tell you something they just don't know how to articulate it. Maybe they're tired of feeling obligated to speak to you. I think it's a combination. A lot of how someone severs ties with you says so much about their character and where they prioritize you and your emotions. I think anything short of a amicable or respectful ending to a relationship is selfish, granted you didn't do anything wrong. I can definitely respect someone's wishes for not wanting to continue a certain relationship, I can't stop that, what's even better if if we can continue to be cool....that does become tasking if someone takes another route. the strong trust you built is now gone. And if your feelings from before weren't mutual now they're not mutual for other reasons, now the person that didn't feel as strong is now the person that might trust you, but you may not trust them. Like any roller coaster I guess you get off but want to get back on....and some you're not as eager to jump back on again,lol but you may one day. That's sort of like what love seems like to me. you get scared on a roller coaster, you feel good on one, you wonder when does it end, and sometimes are disappointed when it ends too fast. Of course there's some you can't wait to get off, because you hated it, or maybe you didn't ride it with the person you wanted. Ultimately if you get anythng out of this, just remain logical, trust your intellect, be smart, have fun, be safe, but remain true to yourself, anyone will always respect that.
The End-S.W.AG.

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