How Platonic Can We Really Be?


Here's an issue that I think that both men and women can relate to. This is the issue of platonic relationships, or in other words the relationship where you and someone else are "just friends." In relationships like this I think it's highly likely that at least one person if not both people in the relationship has or hs had some sort of more than friendly thoughts of one another. A lot of women label a guy quickly sometimes as a "brother" or like too much of a friend. As a guy I can tell you I'm blessed to have good looking female friends, and as much as we are friends, I'd never put them on the level of "sister" or something. I live in a way where I want to feel like anything can happen I don't shut down people too much. But my question is can a man and woman really have a truly platonic friendship without either party having any miscellaneous feelings? I mean I think so, but I also think that its not an often occurrence. In any event we need platonic relationships, we need confidants, in a nutshell though i'd love to know How yall feel bout platonic friendships.

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  1. ~3g3March 8, 2009 at 3:03 AM

    For the most part I'd say the answer is no. Not unless the guy is either gay or has someone else who they are in love with. At first yes, but at somepoint one or both are gonna catch feelings. maybe not at the same time but eventually If they spend a lot of time together. I think the fault falls on us guys in this one because we're more willing to risk our friendship with a girl hence why guys don't have a friend zone.

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  2. AnonymousMarch 8, 2009 at 3:04 AM

    It is definitely possible for a female to be just friends with a male and not feel ANY OTHER type of way. Being at Post, lots of boys have mistaken my friendship for something more and have tried to elevate it only to have me SHUT THEM DOWN. I might be flirtatious, but it doesn't mean I'm interested or see you in any other way but a good friend. It's always good for a girl to keep males around just in case the female sex gets a little too bitter, catty, or immature for her liking.

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  3. AnonymousMarch 8, 2009 at 3:06 AM

    And btw... thats the difference between guys and females. A guy will do things with his friend just because he knows thats his friend and he trusts her. A lot of girls won't cross that boundary, and if they do, it doesnt necessarily mean that they like the guy.

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  4. EricaRussellMarch 8, 2009 at 4:40 PM

    its a difficult question. i feel like usually its the dude that makes the relationship more complicated. platonic relationships are def possible tho, if both parties are in relationships.

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  5. AnonymousMarch 9, 2009 at 2:30 PM

    Guys and Gals, platonic relationships are amazingly possible, life does not all revolve around the area below the belt! We have over 2,000 platonics happy to meet each other on
    www.platonicpartners.co.uk
    which, incidentally,also has a large number of folks from the USA chatting to each other too!
    We have good relationships with our families, with whom we do not have physicality, so why on earth can we not feel something for another friend, without sex being involved? It's like saying you cannot eat pepper without salt...
    Best wishes
    Suzie

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  6. DamnpopsMarch 9, 2009 at 11:16 PM

    thanks suzie....and erica, yea it's mighty esay if both parties are in relationships,lol

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