Damn, He Got A Point

I don't think you can ever be too cautious when looking for someone to be with. You should always be careful in choosing who you're going to invest your emotions in. When emotions get involved you really have to make sure you make more sound decisions. Be weary of some things as you progress with someone; of course this all begins with you. I strongly feel when you're avidly looking for something, other things may come along that may only seem as if it is what you want. Think of it as when you may be missing someone and for some reason many people you'd see throughout a day may seem as if it were them. In sports it's very common for a coach to tell a player to "let the game come to you." What they mean by this is that you can't force anything. You play best when you're the most relaxed. If you're dead set on only one thing you end up oblivious to other factors of someone that you really may not be into. It's an easy thing to come along an...

There's nothing like when you put your mind to something and you accomplish it. I came into this school year knowing I had to do a full year, and also knowing this semester was do or die. In the midst of all that I made personal decisions simply to insure that My focus didn't waver for these 3 months. This semester may have arguably been the most difficult emotionally. I came to terms with the fact that I'm a man and I am not immune to being emotional. It took a hell of a lot of emotion to realize that. I knew for a fact what I had to do to be successful. It did work against me in some ways, but I had to always remain cognizant of the fact that my graduation and my proverbial future was on the line. What can logically compromise that? My point exactly, in perspective everything pales in comparison to this education thing we're striving for. As a result of my sacrifice, my decision making, and busting my ass I can finally rest easy knowing I did the right thing. I know...

"Get over it!" is a common phrase used by many of us. It's very agnostic, hold no real emotion to it. When you want someone to just get over something, you're not humanizing yourself to that situation. We're all guilty of this sometimes, but when something disheartening happens to us we look for some empathy. Empathy is great; knowing someone relates to your situation really creates a sense of comfort. As people relate to your situation, they also usually give advice. Much of the advice involves you doing something you're not comfortable doing. I strongly believe that's a great way to grow. There are some pieces of advice you get which may tell you to not disclose certain things or not to do certain things. These parameters are put in place to keep you from being more vulnerable. On paper this advice seems easy to execute and on most days it is. Sometimes your emotions can pull you back. There are instances in conversation where you want to hold your tongu...

On Monday my psychology professor said something that struck me. She said that men are more emotional than women. As I've matured I've noticed that as much as I may not want to express it, I'll feel emotions nonetheless. My professor believed that men don't express themselves as much because of the reaction they may fear of a significant other. She said that a lot of times women say they want openness and they get it, but when they do their reaction to whatever it may be might not be the right one. As she spoke I really began to relate. Showing emotions is something men aren't bred to do. So obviously a man having to show emotion in some cases has to involve learning. You have to be comfortable and it takes time. For a woman, she's encouraged to be a woman and be emotional by her peers, her home, and society. There isn't any criticism for a woman being emotional, it's simply seen as second nature. There's obviously exceptions to this as there may be...

You ever think men and women are more alike than they seem? Sometimes I truly happen to think so. There's times when both men and women cross the lines that society has gotten us accustomed of being bound to. To my fellas, you ever find yourself taken back by the behavior of someone you've been dealing with? Do some of her tendencies seem all too familiar to you in how she embraces you or keeps you at bay? Well i can speak for me, and I know I've definitely seen this scenario before. It's always thought women shouldn't juggle their men and that it's okay for men to play the field. In playing the field some feelings can be hurt as that's just the nature of the beast. Nevertheless we men are more used to having that freedom and for some reason don't expect to feel any remnant of that lifestyle. Today I tell you "they" are just as bad as we are. When the fellas get together and talk about different people there's usually one that we'd say...

Our lives are pretty much based on conditions, circumstances, and contingencies. The fact that I'm here writing this is based on a condition. My father met my mother, and therefore had me eventually and there you go. Our lives revolve around these things. When you come to school the idea is do get good grades, and usually when you don't bad things happen. If you don't perform up to par you get suspended or expelled etc. The way we live day to day are under conditions, we have laws in our society. Our laws expect a certain behavior out of us. Our society prefers that we be civil and moral. When we violate those laws, once again bad things happen that doesn't benefit you. You may be asking what this has to do how men and women relate to each other. It may not be an issue that you see as important but it creates a great discussion. We all have standards. we all have things we are willing to tolerate from each other, and things that we're not. I touched on this in my b...

We live in a male dominated society. Males are always seen in a position of power or dominance. We're not always raised to show or acknowledge our vulnerabilities like I've said before. With that being said it's safe to say that guys definitely aren't used to humbling themselves in terms of their pride. I don't think many men are comfortable with the idea of being at the mercy of a woman. It has to be one of the more uncomfortable things for a guy to deal with. I think a prevalent scenario is when you see a guy "whipped." I don't think dudes are ever comfortable admitting that they're whipped by anyone. This is a case where the woman has a definite position of power and the male is now at the mercy of the woman. This is almost to the point that if or when a woman leaves the dude is still caught up on the woman. A scenario like this puts a guy in a position that he's not used to. A woman can take much pride in the fact that this may be every gu...